Here are my best answers to your questions:
1) The scientific way to know whether your episodes are over (once you are on IVIG, some other medication, or no medication) is to monitor your blood on a daily or more frequent basis, to determine whether your hemoglobin numbers stay within their normal range. This can be done by pricking yourself and then placing a drop of blood in a portable analyzer like the HemoCue device, see the Disorder Resources tab, under Diagnostic Tests.
To my knowledge, I may be the only one who did this every day for months before and after I went on IVIG, and I stopped checking my blood once it became clear that my numbers were, for the first time, remarkably stable month after month after month. Most patients simply go by how they feel, and if they feel normal, they conclude that they are not having episodes of SCLS.
2) IVIG treatments are for life or until someone -- most likely, Dr. Kirk Druey at NIH -- comes up with the answer to the question: What immunological or other factor are we missing, such that we become vulnerable to episodes of SCLS? There are a couple of SCLS patients in Europe who have been on IVIG for a dozen years, but most SCLS patients have been on it for 5 or fewer years.
3) SCLS episodes are so dangerous and traumatic that I'm not familiar with anyone who, after enjoying the benefits of IVIG or other treatments, has decided to play Russian roulette with their lives and tried going off their IVIG or other medications to see if the episodes come back.
Good luck with your visit to the Mayo Clinic, and let us know if they tell you anything different. Chances are that they will not, because to my knowledge they don't even have first-hand experience with SCLS patients who have been on an IVIG-based therapy.