Thank you so much for sharing your travails with us, Liesa, and I'm glad to hear that your husband is recuperating and will be coming (to your new) home next month.
Most of us -- the ones who manage to survive, that is -- come out from the first episode with physical disabilities and sometimes also with organ damage, which is much harder to reverse. Thus, if it's any consolation, keep telling yourselves that "it could have been much worse." This saying became one of my own mantras, so much so that I now look at almost everything from the bright side.
With regard to Terbutaline and Theophylline, which they are likely to give him next, remember what I wrote in an earlier post: "Both medications have side effects, as you will see by searching the Internet, so fasten your seatbelt: Look for an increased heart rate, nervousness, irritability and insomnia as the dosage rises -- and Terbutaline is also prone to induce shaking (in one-third of patients)."
"As the dosage will probably keep getting hiked after you both return home, I advise you to insist that your MD prescribe a tranquilizer for your husband, or at least something to help him fall asleep. In case they don’t tell you this, it’s best to take these medications in the morning and afternoon -- preferably never in the evening, just like you would never want to take 20 cups of coffee after 8PM."
So just because the doctors don’t seem to be very concerned with the side-effects, don't let them put the issue at the bottom of the priority list. Insist on trying out different tranquilizers starting right now, while he is being monitored and before he is discharged and you have to face the mood and other problems on your own.