LOL about getting sorted out. I don't think it's possible at this point. Every time I visit my geneticist he says something else has to be looked at and the last time said,"well, we will try to keep you alive." It is so frustrating to live in the US because it forces me to rely on Medicaid. Medicaid pays $500 in labs--blood work, scans, surgeries, etc and it is hades on earth getting them to extend it. Most places won't so we have to go to a hospital 3 hours away that allows payment based on income. Frustrating. I know how you feel about how if you weren't diagnosed you wouldn't be here. I had the mastectomy done the year after diagnosis and DCIS was already in grade 3 in spots. Had I not found that note from the OR report we wouldn't know. My doctor actually told me he could do nothing when I came in with blood coming from one nipple. That's how Medicaid patients are treated here. Do you know why the support group folded? There were some nice people there and they really helped when I found the note, read what it was, and knew my test would be positive. I'm hoping not to go anywhere just yet. Recently had a hysterectomy to prevent endometrial cancer. The renal cancer risk is a huge worry since I have only one kidney and colon cancer is dominant in my background but I have to take it a day at a time. All that changed for me was getting a name. For my sister and kids it may be different though and I think that is why I'm so sad. I blame myself :( I wonder how to set up support groups? At least this one is here.